Domestic and family violence takes many forms. It involves violent, abusive or intimidating behaviour carried out by a partner, carer or family member to control, dominate or instil fear. It doesn’t have to be physical abuse. It can be emotional, psychological, financial, sexual or other types of abuse.
It can affect anyone in the community, regardless of gender, sexual identity, race, age, culture, ethnicity, religion, disability, economic status or location. However, women and children are overwhelmingly the victims of domestic and family violence, and perpetrators are overwhelmingly male.
Domestic and family violence can include the following types of abuse:
Systematic isolation from family and friends through techniques such as ongoing rudeness to family and friends to alienate them instigating and controlling the move to a location where the victim has no established social circle or employment opportunities
Restricting use of the car or telephone
Forbidding or physically preventing the victim from going out and meeting people
A person does not need to be married for it to be considered ‘domestic and family violence’. It can be perpetrated by a partner, family member, carer, boyfriend or girlfriend. A person does not need to experience all of these types of abuse for it to be considered domestic or family violence.
You might think children don’t worry about people fighting at home. You might think children will soon forget things they see – like mum being hit or parents screaming and yelling at each other, but they don’t forget. Children can be badly effected by domestic violence. They may be physically hurt or emotionally hurt. They may behave differently and have trouble coping with school.
Many children believe they are partly to blame and may think they can make things better by not saying how they feel, or by keeping out of the way.
Are you having trouble sleeping because of these feelings?
Do you have physical symptoms, such as tense muscles or racing heart beat because of these feelings?
Do you have trouble concentrating because of these feelings?
If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these, then there are signs that you are not being treated right, or that you are being abused. If you don't feel safe, respected and cared for, then something isn't right.
If you want to talk to someone, counsellors are available at
NSW DOMESTIC VIOLENCE LINE - 1800 65 64 63
1800 RESPECT LINE - 1800 737 732
Or if you’re in the Port Macquarie Hastings area contact Liberty – go to the Contact Page for details.